Vita

First Evangelical Free Church, 1987- Current

Senior Pastor: Darin McWatters, 2017 to present
Senior Pastor: Mike Erre, 2012 – 2015
Senior Pastor: Dale Burke, 1995 – 2010
Senior Pastor: Charles R. Swindoll, 1987 – 1994

Pastor of Counseling Ministries

• In the past, responsible for the development and oversight of several support groups for adult children of dysfunctional families (New Hope), couples recovering from infidelity (New Foundations), and sobriety/abstinence issues.
• Currently oversees training and supervision of the extensive lay counseling program of the church.
• Serves as a consultant to various support groups of the church and gives pastoral oversight to COMI (Caregivers of the Mentally Ill) and Family to Family (the NAMI family training program).
• For 10 years, supervised a leadership group that developed The Gift Shop; a spiritual gift-based, computer-matched, volunteer ministry placement service.
• Oversees all the Marriage Ministries and teaches in the pre-parenting, divorce recovery, premarital remarriage, premarital and couple enrichment programs of the church.
• Administers the digital fingerprint program required of all adults who work with minor children (approximately 3,000 adults to date)

Adultery Recovery training, Graduate Intensive, 24 hours and Marital Counseling and Adultery

Prevention training for Clergy, 16 hours, Divitia Gratiae University, Chisinau, Moldova, April, 2017

Couple and Family Therapy Intensive, 40 hours, Moscow Baptist Seminary, Moscow, Russia,
October, 2016

Chaplaincy Multi-Discipline Training (CMDT)
Department of the Army, Orlando, Florida, Jan 2012
“Close Calls: Friendship and Flirtation, Danger Signs for Couples”

Family Life Chaplains
Department of the Army, Fort Bragg, NC, Nov 2011
“Stabilizing Marriages After Disclosure of Infidelity”

Missions: Short-wave transmission – Station shutdown
Far East Broadcast Corporation, Saipan, April 2011

Couple and Family Therapy Training – Semester Intensive (40 hrs.)
Vos’hozhdenie, Kiev, Ukraine, Dec 2010, Jun 2013, April 2016

Lay Counseling, Peer Support & Recovery Group Training with
World Relief & Gate of Hope, Kagali, Rwanda, July 2009, Aug 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013

Adultery Recovery and Preventions
Cuban Pastors Conference, Havana, June 2014

Guarding your heart – 16-hour training
The Salvation Army, Central Headquarters, Chicago, Nov 2014

Adultery Recovery: Training & Case Review
Government Grant, Singapore, Nov 2009, April 2011, May 2013, May 2016

Identifying & Preventing Emotional Affairs
Reach Global Conference, Poland, Aug 2009, Germany, 2011, Thailand & Slovenia, 2013, 2015,
Panama, 2016

Clergy Sexual Misconduct; Moral Purity in Ministry
Talbot Seminary, 8-hour module, D. Min Program, May 2011, 2013, 2016, 2017

Plenary Speaker: Close Calls
Smart Marriages, Orlando, July, 2010

Pastoral Infidelity Prevention, Leadership Training Conference
Salvation Army, Omaha, NE, Mar 2009

Emotional Infidelity Prevention & Recovery
Family Life Conference, Thessalonica, Greece, Nov 2008

Adultery Recovery Workshops: Counseling, Advocacy and Prevention (CAP) Program Conference Department of the Navy, Ontario, CA, Aug 2008

Graduate Level Course “Family Counseling”
East Asia School of Theology, Singapore, 2002, 2005, 2009, 2010, 2013

Mending Marriages after Infidelity: The First 90 Days,Smart Marriage Conference,
Dallas 2005, Atlanta 2006, Denver 2007, San Francisco 2008, Orlando, 2009, 2010

Plenary Speaker: Close Calls
National Association of Relationship & Marriage Education (NARME), Anaheim, 2013

Track Coordinator: Couples in Crisis, with Norm Wright, Ron Hawkins, D.Min, Ed.D., Siang-Yang Tan, Ph.D AACC World Congress, Dallas & Nashville, 1997 – 2017

Conference Speaker, High-Risk Profile for Pastoral Infidelity
Son Life Conferences, Orlando, 2003

Christian Association of Psychological Studies (CAPS) International Conference, Chicago, 2002

Emerging Trends in Pastoral Infidelity: 10 years of Research on Evangelical Pastors
Moody Bible Institute, Chicago, 1999-2010

Lay Counseling/Support Group Training
T & G Conference, Kobe and Osaka, Japan, 1998

Family Ministry, Hong Kong, China, Nov 1998
St. John’s Episcopal Church, Hong Kong, China

Keynote speaker
National Australian Conference on Recovery, Sydney/Brisbane, May 1993; Melbourne, May 1997

Invited paper “Helping Couples Recover from Infidelity”
Christian Association of Psychological Studies (CAPS) Kansas City, April 1993

Track Coordinator “Current Trends and Social Concerns in Counseling”
International Congress on Christian Counseling, Atlanta, GA., Nov 1992

Invited paper “Predictors of Pastoral Infidelity”
Fuller Theological Seminary Conference on “Crisis in the Clergy,” San Juan Capistrano, June 1992

“Dysfunctional Families, Health and Recovery Issues”
American Academy of Physicians Assistants, National Conference, San Francisco, May 1991

“Sexual Addiction and the Clergy”
National Association of Sexual Addiction Treatment Conference, Los Angeles, 1989

Discovery Health Channel, OWN
Hour-long television documentary entitled “Unfaithful: Stories of Betrayal”. First aired April 2010,
March 2011

American Association of Christian Counseling, three multiple-hour long videos,
Basic: Marital Counseling
Advanced: Recovery from Infidelity
Advanced: Ethics and Scope of Practice Guidelines for Lay Counselors
Advanced: The Nathan Project – Clergy Sexual Misconduct; Pastoral Infidelity, Frequency & Prevention

Coral Ridge Presbyterian Television, with D. James Kennedy
Hour-long television special on “Helping Couples Recover From Infidelity”

Focus On the Family, Radio Broadcast Panel Discussion: Pastoral
Infidelity with Panelists: Arch Hart, Ph.D., James Dobson, Ph.D.

Family Life Radio, 5-segment radio presentation with Dennis Rainey
“Helping Couples Recover from Infidelity”

Marriage Uncensored, 2-segment television production on Adultery Prevention & Recovery,
Vancouver

100 Huntley Street, 5-segment television production on Adultery Prevention & Recovery, Toronto

Ultimate Relationship Program, Lovers for life-media.com with Tony Robbins & Chloe Madane

American Association of Christian Counselors, Advisory Board Member
Center for Family Therapy, Orange, CA, Board Member 1988-2015
Marble Retreat Center, Marble, CO, Current Board Member
University of California, Riverside, CA, Advisory Panel, Sexual Addiction Treatment Certificate Program 1996-1998
CAST-Child Abuse Services Team, Orange County, CA, Religious Community Liaison 1992-1996

Books:

Anatomy of an Affair: How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your
Marriage Against Them, Moody Publishers, 2017

Unlocking Your Family Patterns: Healing the Hurts of Your Painful Past, Moody Publishers, 2011

Close Calls:What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage, Moody Publishers 2008

Torn Asunder Workbook; Recovering from an Extramarital Affair, Moody Publishers: 2001, Revised
2008

Torn Asunder; Recovering from an Extramarital Affair, Moody Publishers, 1992, Revised 1995 & 2008

Steps to a New Beginning, Thomas Nelson: 1992
Gold Medallion Award, Personal Evangelism Category, 1993

Secrets of Your Family Tree, Moody Press: 1991
Special acknowledgements: Insight for Living premium offer, 1991, Guidepost Book of the Month
April, 1992

Promises From Proverbs, Zondervan: 1984, 2012

Magazine Articles:

“Can This Marriage Be Saved?” Ladies’ Home Journal, May 2008, Nov 2009, May 2010, Jan & Mar 2011

Pastoral Infidelity, Parts 1 & 2, Christian Counseling Today, (AACC), 2007

Betrayal In Marriage: A Five Step Recovery model, Christian Counseling Today, Vol 22, No 2

Chapter Contributions:

Caring for People in Marriage and Family Life, “Infidelity and Marital Betrayal”, Chapter 9, ed. Centore, Clinton, & Ohlschlager, American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC), Forest, VA, 2008

Christian Educator’s Handbook on Family Life, ed. Wilhoit & Gangel, “Conducting Parenting Classes in the Local Church”, Chapter 11, Victor Books, Wheaton, IL, 1994

Marriage, Family, Child Counseling License-MFT, CA #25382
Limited License in Psychology, Michigan #006036

California Association of Marital and Family Therapists (CAMFT)
Michigan Association of Professional Psychologists (MAPP)
Christian Association of Psychological Studies (CAPS)
American Psychological Association (APA)
American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC)

Wayne State University: Detroit, MI, 1979-1984
Master of Arts (Counseling Psychology)

University of Toledo: Toledo, OH, 1977-1979
Abnormal Psychology and Personality Development; Statistics for Psychological Research

American Institute of Holy Land Studies: Jerusalem, 1971
Thirty day study seminar on location. Topic: Historical Geography

Calvary Seminary: Kansas City, MO, 1970
Master of Arts (Biblical Literature); Emphasis on Theology, book studies, and languages

Calvary Bible College: Kansas City, MO, 1967
Bachelor of Arts (Christian Education): Included extra emphasis in Greek and Theology

Age 72; married 51 years; four adult children; eight grandchildren
Hobbies: reading, jogging, home-repair/landscaping, fly-fishing