Table of Contents

Prologue: A Letter from “The Other Woman”

Section 1: Understanding Extramarital Affairs

1.   “What God Hath Joined Together”: In Pursuit of Healing for Shattered Marriages
2.   Sorting Out the Chaos: The One-Night Stand and Sexual Addiction
3.   Sorting Out the Chaos: The Entangled Affair
4.   Causes: Environments That Allow Affairs to Flourish
5.   Other Factors Contributing to Infidelity
6.   Understand the Recovery: The Infidel’s process

Section 2: Healing from Affairs

7.   “What God Hath Joined Together”: In Pursuit of Healing for Shattered Marriages
8.    Understanding the Recovery: The Spouse’s Process Why? Deciphering the Message of the Affair
9.    Anger in Affairs: Getting Good Out of Getting Mad
10.  Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding Trust
11.  “And They Shall Be As One”: Restructuring Intimacy

Section 3: Special Circumstances

12.  To Tell or Not to Tell: The Secret Affair
13.  Emotional Affairs: Hooked, Played-out, and Desperate for Release
14.  When Your Spouse Doesn’t Want You Back: The 90-Day Experiment

Appendix A: What to Tell the Kids

Appendix B: Materials for Use with a Couples’ Support Group

Appendix C: Marital Satisfaction Time Line

Appendix D: A Selected Bibliography