The Contract

So if this is so normal, what can you do about it? The most powerful way to disarm them is to talk to your spouse about the experience. Below is a link to the contract that the two of you can use to develop this practice. It will guarantee a whole new level of intimacy between the two of you. It will help you create safety, keep respect high, nourish your trust, and make you feel important to your spouse. It will help provide what you as a couple want in this marriage—to know and be known and still be loved.

Read it, adjust it if necessary, but sign it—and then practice it!